When you have a bad day...

When you have a bad day, sometimes it feels like an inherent responsibility to fix things, take a downtime, indulge in sweets and sugars, go for a long walk, and soo many more things to do.

And people give it up as the best advice ever. Definitely not so simple, but under a lot of pretext.

“Enjoy yourself; You Deserve it!”

“Be smooth on yourself! Relax and Unwind”

“It okay to sometimes treat yourself.”

and so many cliche terms like this.

But, have you ever asked yourself- Are these treats? I mean, look at it! Sugar is the worst you can give your body. How is that a treat? Relaxing only brings down your momentum. Would you do this to yourself?

Okay, I am not here to advise you on what to do and what not to do cuz I am not the perfect person when it comes to managing my bad days. I had one yesterday and all I did was scream and display toxic anger at people I love for extremely unjustifiable reasons.

And that’s exactly why I am here to tell you what could’ve been done as a best-case scenario.

You can say I am writing this for my future self so that she can know her mistakes and learn from what had already happened.

DO NOT STROLL, AND DO NOT TAKE A DOWNTIME.

That is an unproductive ‘Coping Mechanism’ that prevents you from dealing with your emotions. It just stalls your mood and suppresses the pressing issue at that time and distracts you from actually dealing with something that happened/something that you are feeling.

And the result of this?

You have a dormant lava inside you that is looking for a trigger to erupt. And the next time, maybe when a very minute trigger happens to press in — you erupt. With voluminous rage and anger that flush out your emotions as if you are throwing up on a volcano filled with words.

And the result of this?

Totally unintended consequence of hurting people around you and creating a wound in them that they never deserve.

I am telling you this because when I just did this, I cannot forgive myself for causing the wounds. My loved ones flinched away at the hurt that I caused even around 18 hours after the initial incident. I am telling you NOW — The realization and guilt are unbearable. Because you literally caused harm for no good reason and neither for a good outcome. In fact for no outcome.

So, when you have a bad day — face it. Shit happens. But that’s life.

And when you actually face and get out of it — you would have learned one of the most greatest lessons of all time.

The mastery of your own Emotions.

Yes! That’s the pursuit of Human existence.